In Sickness And In Health

Caring for an ill partner or spouse can be difficult, to say the least. Obviously, a catastrophic illness or accident is much more difficult to deal with the flu or a cold. We tend to deal with the severe illnesses with more compassion than when the person has a common ailment.

Of course, an individual who is dealing with a simple condition such as the flu can require a lot more tolerance to take care of than one that is chronically or terminally ill. We seem to have less patience because that person is not in real danger. The following are some tips as to how to deal with a "small" illness.

Firstly, make up a "survival kit" with many of his/her favorite movies, books, and magazines. Be sure to include the remote for the television and video equipment. Make sure that there is water and juice readily available and pamper him/her with a meal in bed, as it will make them feel "special" and cared for. Dress the tray up with a place mat and a flower. Fluff those pillows now and again and provide a cool washcloth for the forehead.

When dealing with a chronically or terminally ill partner or spouse, there are many more issues to take into consideration. This situation can be a devastating event. It is stressful, frustrating and emotionally draining. Often, the chronically ill will lash out at the caregiver, which can be hurtful. We must remember that they are trying to deal with their illness too, so you should not take their comments personally. A few tips to help in the care of a chronic or terminally ill significant other follow.

Make a list of all medications with dosages, amounts, frequency, start/stop dates, and so on. Keep a contact number for the pharmacy and doctor in a safe place where it can be reached in case of emergency.

If you need help, don't be afraid to ask. Seek out family members to assist you with doctor's appointments or just for moral or emotional support. Most importantly, take time for yourself. Caring for a chronically or terminally ill partner or spouse can be overwhelming, so you must take measures to ensure that you yourself are healthy as well.