Losing a Loved One

The death of a spouse may seem an overwhelming task.  You have just lost your life-mate and now you have to make funeral arrangements, deal with financial situations, and cope with grief.  

Death of a spouse may leave you feeling sad, hopeless, and maybe even angry.  There are so many emotions that you may feel, like you don't know how you will go on.  But there are ways to help you move through this sad point in your life.

Importantly, you must acknowledge the loss.  Even though it doesn't seem to really be happening to you, you go on functioning well.  But has it really set in?  It may even take up to a few months for the reality of your situation to set in.  You are never really ready to say goodbye.

Friends and relatives may be there with words of encouragement, which probably don't seem like enough. But then they go on with their lives and you are left alone, again.  Do not feel that way; there are several ways to remedy this situation.  

You may have a friend, or even a group of widows, that has gone through the loss of a spouse also and can relate to you.  Even writing a journal may help you deal with your personal grief.  You may even think about volunteering to help occupy your mind. Volunteering may even be a medication for your soul, knowing that you are helping someone else in need.  

Remember to always be good to yourself; eat right, exercise and keep in touch with family and friends.  Always believe in yourself, don't make hasty decisions such as selling your house or moving.  Give yourself time to heal.  Wait at least a year, and if you still want to sell or move, you will know when the time is right.